31/Middle Eastern/ Muslim/ Smart/Pretty...... Why are you single?

Good Morning!

I wanted to share my thoughts on being single as this has been something that has been on my mind! I am not 100% sure I have a full understanding of what is the reason but from talking to people and reading articles and just being me I have realized that it has nothing to do with me, however, it does! I think this goes back to something I learned a long time ago about timing.  When its your time you will die, you will finish school, you will get married!! Everything has a place and a time and nothing can be done out of order. I think that as we go through life we expect things to just happen but when they don't we freak out!

I can speak for myself in saying that I do that- its very hard for me to wait and understand that something is coming and that something can be amazing! I once had this mentor and she told me that I had to keep going on my path and then I would meet this person. IF I stopped and waited for him in life I would miss him.  Continuing to better myself is how I have learned that I will match with the person I should be with. That is a challenge and not the easiest task at hand.....

I have to continuously check myself and understand that its a learning curve and goals must be set for better things to come in life.  I know it seems like I am 31- Muslim - Pretty Girl- Educated - Good Job etc... how can I still be single? TIME!!!!!! its all about time and what that means in relation to where I am in my life. There must be some obstacles that I have to accomplish or get over that will then place me in a better situation for meeting that right person.

Easy to preach about what needs to be done rather than just doing it but - I know that at this age I really need to kick things into full force and take my life under control and move towards what is best for me. And when things in your life improve in all areas that will attract different people to enter your life. And that also means that sometimes some people need to exit your life also - and that is just what happens as we grow up.

I have looked into some books that I would like to read while I am still on summer vacation from school and they are cute relationship fiction novels and non fiction novels.... I will past the books below for you.  Also I have linked some websites with helpful information on "being single" for some research!!

Have a great day!!!
xoxo
fati

12 secrets of being happy: Using research from 100 world experts, a new book shows how to look on the bright side


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2090271/12-secrets-happy-Using-research-100-world-experts-new-book-shows-look-bright-side.html

The Art of Being Happily Single
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-art-of-being-happily-single/

Ramadan Mubarak!

Hello!

So Ramadan has begun and its going smooth so far. Its day 3 and I think for the most part I think its mostly mental but however it does have a lot to do with the energy levels that you have.  Its hard to keep pushing and pushing when you're feeling drained! I feel that the eating part is not hard once you have done it a couple days but its the energy level that comes down and you suffer at work.  Fasting isn't hard when you are at home and can relax and sleep most of the day off.

You also have to keep in mind that you are making an effort to refrain from foul language, gossip and bad behavior.  That is probably much harder than the not eating part of the fast.  I have noticed myself cursing and using bad words when I know better and this can really be a good lesson for the whole year when trying to kick a bad habit.  I mean if you can refrain from it for 30 days then you can really refrain from it forever.

This month is really a great time to learn more about yourself and plan for the upcoming year.  How can I improve and how can I change the mistakes that I made from last year.  What can I do differently so that my sins are less and my good deeds are more.  Connecting with god and making that bond stronger (no matter what religion you are) and deeper.  I know that Allah is forgiving and if one has really hurt and upset and is asking for forgiveness then that person will be granted their dua's and be forgiven.  But you have to be real about it and change.

I recently started following this tumblr of all stuff Islamic related and I wanted to share a couple of the postings that I enjoyed. Hope ya'll do too~


xoxo
fati

"And know that victory comes with patience and that relief comes with hardship.”
— Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Allah knows the struggle against my nafs and I have never felt more in need of Ramadan than this year. May Allah give us strength and relief to overcome our hardships and allow us to continue steadfast on the deen for when the month is over.
May this beautiful month heal our broken hearts and blackened souls and be a turning point for the better.

Please forgive me if I have ever caused any of you any harm or disrespect whether it be knowingly or unknowingly. I am sincerely sorry and I love you all for the sake of Allah.

Ramadan Mubarak 😊✌keep the Ummah in your duas and stay blessed!

DKNY HAS A RAMADAN COLLECTION!!!!

“Fasting is not about a diet of burning calories. It’s about burning ego, pride & sins.”